For example:
– “I passed the exam, but my friend didn’t.”
– “I’m really disappointed because my child didn’t get into their dream school.”
When your friend or child fails an entrance exam, you might wonder what to send them on WhatsApp. It’s important to express “sympathy for their feelings” and “praise for their efforts.” Blaming others for their failure or giving condescending advice will only hurt their feelings, so it’s best to avoid that.
Here are 12 phrases you can say to someone who didn’t pass their exam. Choose the appropriate expressions based on your relationship with the person:
For Friends – If a friend fails an exam, offer sympathy and encouragement:
- “I’m a bit disappointed with the results, but I know you worked hard. You’ll do better next time! If you need help, just let me know!”
- “I heard about your exam results. It’s tough right now, but your efforts won’t go to waste. I’ll always support you; let’s work together for the next step!”
- “This result is disappointing, but your hard work won’t be in vain. Get ready for the next opportunity!”
For Children – If your child fails an exam, praise their efforts and let them know you’ll support them:
- “I’m sorry about the result, but I see how hard you tried. Failure is just a step toward success. Let’s work together for the next time!”
- “The exam might not have gone well, but I’m proud of your effort. I’ll always support you; let’s try again next time.”
- “I’m disappointed with the result, but I’m proud of your hard work. I’ll always be here for you, so don’t give up on the next exam!”
For Mom Friends – If a mom friend’s child fails an entrance exam, offer sympathetic and supportive words:
- “It’s unfortunate about the results, but I think your efforts are amazing. Let’s keep encouraging each other!”
- “I heard about the exam results. I know this is tough for you, but with your support, he/she’ll be okay. Let’s get through this together.”
- “The results are disappointing, but your love and effort as a mother haven’t gone to waste. Let’s look forward and give our best for the next opportunity.”
For Boyfriends or Crushes – If your boyfriend or crush fails an exam, it’s important to empathize with their feelings:
- “I’m disappointed with your results, but I respect your effort. I’ll always be by your side; let’s think about the next steps together.”
- “I heard about your exam results. I know you worked hard, so I’m disappointed too. But I believe you can pass. Let’s work together!”
- “You didn’t pass the exam, and I’m really disappointed, but I’m proud of your effort.”
What Not to Say to Someone Who Didn’t Pass
Blaming Themselves: Avoid blaming those who didn’t pass. Phrases like “Why did you fail?” or “You should have tried harder” will take away their confidence. Exams are a very stressful experience, and it’s easy to feel down after failing.
Denying Their Efforts: Let’s stop saying things that deny the efforts of those who failed. Saying “You didn’t try hard enough” or “You should have put in more effort” will dampen their enthusiasm and motivation. Success is not just about passing exams; it’s the result of continuous effort and learning from failures.
Condescending Advice: Don’t offer condescending advice to those who didn’t pass. Even if you want to give suggestions like “You should do this next time” or “If I were you, I would do it this way,” avoid using a tone that comes off as superior. Imposing your viewpoint can make them feel like “no one understands me,” which can deepen their sadness.
